Dating after sex
Yes, of course, you’re still girlfriend material If you choose to have sex on the first date, it should not have any impact on your eligibility as a partner.
Plenty of couples officially get together after they've done the deed on their first date, so sexing early on shouldn't be a barrier if you’re vibing with each other, and there's mutual consent.
You will also need to explain to your partner that you’re off to the gym and not settling down for cuddles, so good luck with that one. In movies it always look very glamorous, but movies are movies and your bedroom is not. For a fuller experience, draw them even nearer and try to remain perfectly still as their hair burrows into your nostrils and gives you that scratchy grass pollen thrill, their heartbeat thudding against your own. In no way will your brain be fizzling like a glass of Coca-Cola on top of a tumble dryer. Maybe keep it light, avoiding any big pronouncements. One subject suited to a post-nut glow is your dreams and aspirations – the perfect licence to talk yourself up.
There’s a whole industry devoted to telling you how to be better in bed – instruction manuals, videos, well-meaning sex gurus and counsellors who seem to think lube and sensual massage is the answer to everything.
But what about when it comes to what to do after sex?
Virginity was a stand-in for purity and morality, a misogynistic ideal that was—and is—used to repress female sexuality.
It’s why men today still aren't slut-shamed, while women often are.
Even though society has come a long way from patching an 'A' on our dresses, you shouldn't be super hard on yourself for internalizing certain sex-shaming ideals.